Posts from the Relationships Category
Blog: For Japan and The World. It’s Time.
Posted by David Ellzey on April 1st, 2011
A postcard picture from beautiful Sedona, Arizona.
This rare pearl of the cosmos, called earth, needs our attention
right now. It dies, we die. It flourishes, we flourish. Why? Because it is an expression of the one life in all.
In Japan, the Middle East, Africa, the streets of New York or your own home town, there are people who could benefit from your prayers and love. Anything other than love in us is ancient human habit and has brought this species to this precipice of war and self-destruction where we find ourselves today. Simultaneously, the love inherent in the human soul has created unparalleled beauty and human interaction as well. It’s time to tap that infinite resource in all of us.
Please take 60 seconds this very moment and reflect kindly upon those in Japan, those caught in the wars in the Middle East and Africa and those on the streets of your own town without home or shelter.
Doing this is not just for them, it is for your own well being. It is for your own heart opening to this era when love is the only healing balm on the planet. And we are its messengers.
With warm wishes for a healing world,
David
Blog: Show Me the Love. How to Stop Self-Judgment.
Posted by David Ellzey on December 7th, 2010
As I look out at the cold wintery woods from inside my friend’s warm home here in North Carolina, I catch my breath after teaching The 
Sedona Method and advanced course "What’s Love Got to Do With it?" around the world, from New York City, to Holland, London, and North Carolina.
Certainly, the topic of love is a universal one, but the issue of self-judgment and non-love of ourselves is just as universal, yet less addressed.
Do you judge or criticize yourself? Does it sabotage your happiness, success, or well-being? Self-judgment is a learned habit. Thus, luckily it can be unlearned. We picked it up at some early point of our lives. It can be a family or cultural lineage carried on sometimes for generations. And What’s Love Got to Do With it? Everything. However, it’s not enough to simply say, we should be more loving to ourselves. Letting go of our non-love is the key, but how is that done?
While teaching around the world I saw face after face go from heaviness and suffering to lightness, openness, and peace as people recognized the freedom and love found in letting go of self-judgment and self-punishment. This happened as they discovered the lie of being "bad", imperfect, always wrong, or unloveable.
Imagine, I mean in this very moment, seriously, this very moment, what it would be like to have your eyes rest on this page without a mental background of "you should be, in any way, different than who you are in this moment." You should be more productive, better looking, more responsible, and the million additional thoughts of, "I should…" If these thoughts didn’t exist for this moment, can you get a sense of the relief and how the mind quiets a bit?
When we let go of our non-love and negative self-thoughts, our true nature is revealed: a quiet presence, love, a peace beyond description. From this place we deal more patiently with our teenagers, eat more healthy, have no fear to tell those we care about that we love them, or drive in traffic with more calm. In short, life changes in all ways when we love ourselves and when we accept that the source of love we have been seeking is right here within ~ waiting for our attention.
But you know all this. Self-love has been preached for ages. So what am I saying that’s new? I’m saying you can actually let go of the non-love, then the self-love is natural, organic, and forever.
Lester Levenson, founder of The Sedona Method, said, as did many-a-wise-sage, "Love is the foundation of our existence". Consider, right now, letting go of your self-judgment. If this seems hard or impossible, please take what you’re reading seriously. Click here for more about this technique of inner freedom, The Sedona Method.
Read what Norbert Martin, from Switzerland, said after the Love Course and the Sedona Method,
"At the outset of this course, I experienced a shift in consciousness, a great broadening of courageousness. It was a real surprise to discover a new strength … just springing from within. Not only has this shift persisted until now, a month after the course, but it is still expanding."
Join Norbert and the thousands around this spinning globe who are dissolving self-punishing thoughts and feelings and uncovering a new way of experiencing life ~ with a new love for themselves, others, and for life itself.
CLICK HERE for more about The Sedona Method and upcoming courses.
I wish you the greatest of joy, love and happiness,
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PS. If you are near New York City or wish to have a great visit while you are here, the next two courses are Feb 4-6 and Feb 12-13.
CLICK HERE for more info.
Effortless Relationships? Are you crazy?
Posted by David Ellzey on July 17th, 2008
For me, so many relationships have changed because of letting go of needing to defend a position or opinion. Frankly, it is a huge relief. I recommend it! This weekend I am looking forward to leading a training on how to let go of your emotional baggage that you normally assert into all your relationships. However, even more powerful is seeing the roles you have learned to play in the relationships in your life: fixer, caretaker, savior, nice girl, nice boy, etc etc. Much of this is learned behavior and not authentically from your own heart and Self.
This is the forest we will walk through this weekend here in New York City on the Effortless Relationships course. On this two day journey we will find numerous clearings to find out who we truly are beneath the masks we’ve picked up.
And just as importantly is the primary relationship … to your Self.
Experiment right now. Find just one non-supportive judgement you have about yourself. Do it right now. Take a moment now. Pause and now … let it go. It only holds your power and love back. See how you feel when you let self judgement go. This, too, can change how you relate to yourself, and thus, to the world.
For more information on this weekend’s course, see the LIVE Seminars link in the link bar above.
Here’s to living in effortless flow of happiness and success,
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