I’d like to offer some clarity about the words, “Letting Go.” What do they mean, really?
If you’re asked to let a feeling go, you might notice an impulse to resist and defend why you feel the anxiety or emotions you feel. Sometimes, there is even hostility when asked to let go of something that feels justified. When we are used to having a feeling, a point of view, an opinion, or a perspective – it is familiar, comfortable and can create a sense of identity or safety, even when the feeling is painful. So we joke, strike back, fight, or even kill that which threatens it, in order to hold on to our way of seeing ~ our comfort zone of familiarity. It seems to reinforce our sense of survival.
This brings up the liberating distinction about letting go that I want to address. Most often what is having its survival threatened is actually our points of view. Our life-threatening mistake is to identify the totality of who we are as that point of view or belief system. You may ask, “Who are we if not our beliefs?”
Let’s find out. Ask yourself, “What is looking at these words?” Do you need to recall a belief in order to be present in this moment reading? Or is a belief in this moment added by the mind or have to be reaccessed from memory. What I am proposing is that there is a you spontaneously here that is not dependent on your past thinking or beliefs systems. You exist freely. Belief systems and points of view are fine, but they are not ultimately who we are.
YOU are here before during and after these words, all beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. This pre-conditioned presence or self knows how to live more harmoniously because it does not depend on beliefs or holding a position in order to exist. It has a calm knowing and stability in its own self. It speaks what feels true, yet need not stand vigilantly ready to defend a position or be right. So, from here, letting go becomes not about having to “get rid” of a feeling, but rather to let go of holding on so intensely to our positions that have been causing us pain or conflict in our relations, literally in our health, and our lives. In this release of our grip, there is a softening inside. Less ulcers and poor digestion. Less trips to the chiropractor. A relaxing of the shoulders. A new and larger breath. This is a defining moment. We hear something even more meaningful than our thinking and perceptions. Now we hear a voice inside that is our heart, our soul, which speaks what is true for us, not because we have a position to defend, but because it simply is what we know to be true. This is where calm clarity and peace come from.
However, letting go of the familiar may also induce concern or fear. Without our old points on the map of our inner landscape that we have functioned from for years, we may feel a bit lost, vulnerable, or without a compass. If allowed or even welcomed, soon the fear of the unknown is replaced with a familiarity of something deeply familiar, a profound tranquility, the essence of our own being which has been here all along awaiting our attention. This becomes deeply nourishing beyond any past fear or anxiety that was our common way for feeling the safety of familiarity.
So letting go means simply opening our grip ~ our inner grip. If you desire peace, try it now. Breathe deeply, lower the shoulders. Be willing for this one moment of your life to be free of having to stand vigilant against all those who would threaten your point of view. I speak here of your feelings about real life: Marriage, children, school, work, bosses, co-workers, lovers, strangers. I speak of this very moment. When we do this, when we let go holding on, the relaxation we crave can be found more easily. Seeing life with a clearer vision without emotionality, reactivity or victimhood can be discovered. What do you discover? I invite you to rest here for a moment, breathe deeply, and open yourself inside. It seems this peace could be why we are holding on so tightly to every thing else ~ mistakenly in order to find peace by holding on. When all along it was right here waiting to be known ~ by letting go.
Are you open to improving your health easily and quickly? Watch me stand in front of live blood cells that are reflecting the positive impact of friendships, nutrition, movement, and letting go of stress and emotional negativity. These blood cells are of someone after the three-day course I just offered in Holland, called, Total Health. Notice the cell’s vitality! (Short 4 minute video)
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For your greatest happiness and health,